Hi, Jayne!

We know how imperative it is to your health and the health of Helen to get a full night of Zzz’s. And we’re so happy you took the Trustle sleep assessment, backed by over 20 expert child sleep coaches and decades of research, so we can help, starting tonight!

Prepared by
Alina Cararat, ICNCS, CLC, SC
Here’s what isn’t working

Helen's Analysis

We looked at your responses and have made the following analysis of Helen’s sleep.
1. Bedtime

You told us putting Helen to bed is exhausting and takes forever. That’s so hard!

Sleep Pressure

“Sleep pressure” is the technical term for how tired a baby is. The goal with sleep pressure is to have just the right amount. Think of it like a balloon - too little air and the balloon won’t float, and with too much air it will pop. At just the right amount, Helen will drift off to sleep without complaint. 

Helen could be struggling with bedtime because she isn’t tired enough. Of course it makes intuitive sense - if someone told you to sleep at 6pm you probably wouldn’t be able to. (Well, as a busy parent maybe you would!) Be careful to not make Helen too tired, though; that’s equally as likely to make bedtime difficult.  

Here’s a chart for how much sleep you should be aiming for. Keep in mind, this is a general guide, and children vary significantly.

Age
6 Months
Daytime Sleep
3-4 hours
Time Awake Before Bed
3-4 hours
Nighttime Sleep
10-11 hours
Total
13-15 hours

Bedtime Routine

A key part of a sucessfull bedtime is the routine. Going to sleep is a skill, and young children are still learning it, alongside everything else they’re learning.

It looks like your routine may be a little underdeveloped. By having a number of set activities like lullabies and books in a consistent order as part of a routine, you’re letting Helen know, consciously and subconsciously, that it’s time to get ready for bed. Children are not as good at transitions (moving between one activity to another) as adults. A routine helps them gradually switch to a calm state before bed.

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2. Overnight

This chart shows you how all babies and adults move between light to deep sleep all night.. Feel familiar??

The difference for adults (and for children who don’t wake up all night) is that they barely come out of light sleep and immediately fall back to sleep. Babies aren’t born knowing how to go back to sleep themselves. They need help. Cue the crying!

The fact Helen sleeps through the night means this isn't an issue forher right now which is great! It's worth knowing though in case of a sleep regression.

Sleep Independence

You said Helen doesn't fall asleep independently. Instead she needs help, for example, being held.

Even though that’s how Helen goes to sleep initially, it actually affects the entire overnight experience. If Helen goes to sleep that way, she will need that every time she wakes up in the night. On the other hand, ifHelen can go to sleep without help at bedtime, she'll be able to go to sleep without you whenshe rouses during the night.

Because you go in overnight, and because Helen doesn’t yet have the skills to go back to sleep, she continues to need you in the middle of the night. Picking up, rocking, feeding or soothing Helen back to sleep at all hours is exhausting and unsustainable. But with the right sleep training method, you can give her the skills to not need this intervention. 

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Here’s How we can fix it

Helen's Proposed Plan

Sleep training is a journey, and you can either Sprint, Run or Walk to get to your full-night-of-sleep destination. Based on everything you told us about you and Helen, the method that best suits your needs is the “Walk It” method. We know you said you wanted to move quickly, but unfortunately - given your feelings about crying - it's likely that all you'll do by trying to move more quickly is give up on the method. This may be a case of 'move slow to move fast' for your family.
The Walk-It Method

The “Walk It” Method is also referred to as “fading,” and is a very gradual approach to sleep training.

How It's Done:

“Walk It” involves slowly replacing unsustainable sleep dependencies (like having to be rocked to sleep) with more sustainable ones, eventually weaning them down to zero dependencies, helping Helen develop more independent sleeping skills.

Pros:
You mentioned a pretty low tolerance for crying, so this method is a good choice to avoid leaving Helen to cry alone. 
Cons:
This method usually takes a long time and parents may not have the energy to stay consistent.

In many ways, “Walking It” is the easiest method (at least emotionally), but it can be difficult to stay consistent for the long haul. It is key to have a plan that you follow carefully and consistently over the (sometimes long) period of time that you are doing this approach. Sign up for a guided plan and have the support of a Trustle sleep coach expert every step of the way. Get help to do it the right way, the first time. 

Also called:

Fading

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Elle, Mother of 2
Alina was amazing!  Her advice was life changing.  I’m grateful to Trustle and will recommend it to the end of the earth.
Ashley, New Mom
Alina gave us a life-changing solution around bedtime. My husband and I were very skeptical. But it has genuinely changed our lives. We can put him down now and do things! We’ve never had a date night before Alina was introduced into our lives.  
Kristi, Mother of an 9-Month-Old
I finally got a plan that worked for my family. Alina was amazing and I am so grateful for her help!
The Trustle Approach

Most sleep training fails because parents don’t know how to do it properly - and it’s no wonder, with all the contradicting information out there. Don’t fall into this trap.

Google doesn’t work. Yes, it’s free, but the advice is contradictory. This is because there isn’t one approach that is best for every family.

Books don’t work.  While some of them offer a detailed plan, how do you make it work for your family, and what do you do if you get stuck and need to change course?

Trustle works.  We created Trustle to be a fool-proof, but cost-effective alternative to sleep consultants, who usually charge an average of $500 for a consultation.  Trustle allows you to invest in your health and well being, while also being affordable - and, we guarantee it will work.

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A solid sleep training plan and maintaining consistency throughout the process will avoid confusion and make it easier for Helen to get on board the sleeping-through-the-night train.  Often, attempts to sleep train fail because it’s not the right method for that family and / or the plan isn’t implemented in the right way.  We make sure that’s not the case by being by your side each step of the way!

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